Catch Your Husband Cheating? What You Should Do
The answer to this depends on the reasons behind your husband’s behavior. First thing for you to do is take a deep breath. You can create additional problems if you react by becoming an angry, paranoid, punishing partner. Your next step should be a conversation with your husband. Without attacking him, explain you want to discuss the cheating.
Of course, this is where things get tricky. This is also where opportunity toward growth is cultivated. Growth requires change. Change is scary. Why is it scary? Because it requires that we step blindly into the unknown. The unknown is a place we cannot imagine ourselves thriving, laughing, loving and living because there are just too many X factors.
To put the scenario in perspective, it will help if you examine your situation. It is likely that no matter what direction you turn, you are going to face the unknown. For example, if you never confront your husband about his cheating, the reasons for his behavior will remain unknown to you. If you confront him and your husband’s answer is that he does not know why he is cheating, the next step you take together is into the unknown. If your husband is in love with you and cheating means nothing to him, the next step you take together is into the unknown. If your husband is in love with the person he is cheating with, the next step you take together is into the unknown.
While scary, the unknown is filled with opportunities.
You and your husband will need to decide if his cheating marks the end of your relationship or a new beginning. Maybe you stopped communicating with one another and your connection died out. Finding a solution to the cheating can rekindle that. Maybe you’ve both outgrown each other and it is time to move on. Maybe your husband is dealing with personal issues and on a subconscious level, he is using cheating to avoid facing those issues.
No matter how you slice it, his cheating is forcing you to make decisions. Knowing what you want from a relationship will help you to steer your life toward new waters. If you are not in paradise, it is because you have not found it yet. Don’t be afraid to kick that sail up and let new adventures begin.